July 10, 2015

I think this is an Open Letter to the trolls on the internet

I am a social media junkie. I think that is what you call people who have user accounts on all popular social networking websites.
Facebook. Check
Twitter. Check
Pinterest. Check
Instagram. Check
Quora. Check
Tumblr. Check
Snapchat. Check
Google Plus. Ermmm Check *oops*

And I am fairly consistent with checking them as most of my work happens on these platforms. One common trend I notice in most of these interactive networks is the amount of cynicism that people resort to. Facebook and Twitter in particular. It is a convenient trait to point out, isn't it. Let me give you a simple example.

The US Supreme Court ruled in favour of marriage equality and the whole world went online to express what they felt about it. The first 6 hours after the ruling were fairly black and white. There were people jubilant and there were people who thought this was unnatural. Personal opinions. And I respect that. A couple of hours into this, the cynicism set in. There were trolls and there were scores of them. There were remarks ranging from "marzi se shaadi toh karke dikhao" to "amrikaa ki baato pe khush hokar rainbow DP lagaane waalo, janta tumhe maaf nai karegi". Okay, I agree that the rainbow filter on facebook was a stretch but whoever did it, only did it because they saw it as their personal choice. If you like it, then facebook gives you the option to 'like' it and if you don't, communicate it to the person directly if they are your close friend. Here, let me show you how:

XYZ just changed their profile picture *adds rainbow filter*
You think it is laughable becuase, you know, amrikaa and shizz.
You (to XYZ) : "Dude, really?! Colourful profile picture?!"
XYZ : "Why! What's wrong?"
You : "Tu gay hain kya?!"
XYZ : "Have you lost it?! Its to support LGBT shaadi in amrikaa"
You : "Why would YOU give a scoot about what amrikaa is doing with shaadi equality and all?"
XYZ : "Ainvayi, meri marzi. Plus I look super cool with that filter. I think I should instagram it also. Anyway everyone will just pull it down in a couple of days, just like the whole frenzy will die down eventually."

That is the whole point. Know the reason. It could be nothing complicated or weird. Some people may well be following herd mentality here and some sincerely voicing their opinion. The whole filter applying charade was the heat of the moment, the immediate reaction that people made to make sure they expressed themselves about how they felt. I did it too. I thought it was a cool thing, what happened in America. Sure, marriage equality has been a achieved in a lot of countries before this. But none of them have the stature of USA in world politics, and that cannot be denied. I will lay the political debate circling around this issue to rest for now (probably deal with it later, in another post). 

My plea goes out to every individual in person, there are many people out there who are sensitive to a cause/issue, who are probably dealing with their own identities or of someone they are really close to, but they do not want to be directly vocal about it and hence choose indirect channels to express an emotion. If you think being cynical towards a cause is hilarious, please be kind with the jokes you make, otherwise inadvertently you end up hurting a major sentiment. 
As I sit here and type whilst preaching 'be good, do good' to internet dwellers, I also realise that I am stepping over that cynicism line. Poking fun at them. Well I do so in good spirit and believe it or not, I do believe that social media websites can be a colourful fun place to be on. Fun and wit must always be welcome but choose the butts of your jokes wisely. Politicians make good joke material, and arnab goswami, and KRK. There are so many people and things we can collectively make fun of, why pick on peeps in your friends and followers list. 

Disclaimer : Please do not point out that stand-up comics make fun of people, situations and causes randomly. That is their job plus you pay to go watch them do it and laugh when they do it. Ofcourse you don't think they are serious, do you!

July 8, 2015

The Boho Spirit

Bohemian!

Of late, the word has been overheard a lot more than usual. It is well established as a fashion trend which signifies colour, fringes, exotic patterns, exuberance and free spirits. But a Boho spirit is much more than a colourful palette. It is a chosen way of life and to understand Bohemianism properly, it is essential to understand the basic idea behind the whole ideology.

Bohemianism can be ordinarily put as a simple and nomadic lifestyle.The people who adopt this culture/lifestyle usually live a near-poor life of no worry and travel a lot in pursuit of art or culture. And it is all by choice. It is the vagabond and the gypsy style of their life that leads them on to adorn the garb and the ways of all the colourful people they meet on their journey. Hence the wayward nature of how they dress, decorate their homes and lead their lives. Their core beliefs are freedom, truth, love and art. 

In terms of Fashion and Lifestyle, the Boho Chic trend has caught on in the popular culture in ways unimaginable. Here are a few inspirations I could think of off the top of my head.

1) Home Decor inspiration

A caravan tent in place of a conventional patio in the garden. How happy and perfect is that! 

Being boho chic is also being super utilitarian. Here is a perfect example! Using a dusted up ladder as an organiser efficiently.

A dreamcatcher on a pillowcase!

This is supercool at so many levels! 


2) Jewellery inspiration

Exaggerated and mismatched neckpieces define bohemian style.

Silver coin necklaces are the new rage! 

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3) Clothing inspiration



Them sleeves! 


4) Hair inspiration

Hair accessories and Wavy locks

Flower tiaras and wreaths

Braids


5) Bags inspiration


Satchels



6) Footwear inspiration





7) Body Art inspiration

Moving forward.

The entire boho lifestyle belief in one sentence.

The cartilage piercings that are spot on! 


Since the Bohemian soul is all about colour and vibrancy, they can inspire one in a lot more ways. For me, the boho soul is all about heavy accessorising, layering my outfits and having a wild crazy energy for life. Cos HECK, that is what being 'Boho Chic' should finally mean, shouldn't it!

Until next time,

Love,
D!


July 6, 2015

#ExplorerSeries Travelogues : Club Mahindra Pondicherry

Everybody dreams travel dreams. Some want to do it alone and for some it is a group activity. Some travel to connect to their inner selves and some travel to escape. To each, their own. As much as I would like to travel places all the time, work hinders all escapades and so small vacays are the best way out.

Mini Vacations are my sweet spot and I can never say no to a trip that breaks the monotony of day to day. Just recently we decided to visit Pondicherry in Tamil Nadu despite the blistering heat. Having heard rave reviews about the Club Mahindra Big Beach Resort, we decided we needed to check them out ourselves. We invested in a weekend and scooted off for a one day detour at the beach resort. And boy, were we dazzled! This is what we were greeted with....


A breathtaking view from the lobby at the Club Mahindra Big Beach Resort in Pondicherry.
The ground staff and the management were warm and cordial. This is just a part of the elaborate setup they do to welcome the guests at the resort.
Flora!
We swiftly checked into our rooms and retired for a relaxed day. We needed to rest because we planned on hitting the private beach at the resort before the sun rose. We were up at 5 am and off we marched to the beach. With my family and my camera tagging along, I jogged along to the shore only to be greeted with clear skies and the bluest sea.


The family chilling by the resort's private beach.







The dirt bike ride on the shore is an added bonus for beach newbies


My washed away tanned feet!
The Resort also has offers a variety of activities for the guests at their clubhouse and arranges entertainment events and galas every night. There's Zorbing and Xbox and Paintball and a whole lot of things that you can indulge in if you are not on the beach too long! My personal favourite is the dirt bike ride across the beach shore. Exhilarating experience. We also bumped into the lovely Navi Parihar in the lobby who was super sweet while we badgered her on about how wonderful Tanu weds Manu Returns was. Honestly, I dont know how actors do it, stay calm and take in all the hyperactivity from their audience and fans. Anyway, back to the vacay!!!!

Look who we bumped into! Navni Parihar!

While the resort is about 30 kilometres away from the main city, we did get a couple of hours to venture out into the city and explore. Sadly, we could not get to Auroville because we had very little time and we had to get back to the resort within a couple of hours. However, our hunger led us to a hotel called Mayura which served the yummiest dosas. The Highlight? This 4 footer dosa that invited tourists from neighbouring tables over to ours only so that they could click a picture and send it to their friends and family on WhatsApp. Needless to say, it was delish!


The 4 feet Family Dosa at Mayura in Pondicherry city!
Back at the resort, we spent a couple of hours talking and being lazy under the starry sky and listening to the sea at a distance. 


Sunset at the resort.




Next day, we were packed and set to leave for Chennai and back to pavilion but we were taking back a lot of memories and telling each other the whole time that Mini vacations are the best. Already making plans for another vacation!


We are definitely going back again soon! Highly recommended! 
If you do get a chance, do visit the resort. It is totally worth your while.

That is all for my short Pondicherry vacay. Do tell me your favourite vacation memory :)

Until next time,
Cheers,
D!