They intrigue me, the matters of heart. When I was a kid, I loved the whole idea of love and the hullabaloo that surrounds it. Not that I was untouched by it in any way, I felt it around me in the air. The people I knew claimed to be foolishly romantic and totally head over heels this person they were with.
Whoa! If you just put aside all the lovey-dovey feelings aside and tried to be rational about the concept of love. Love eventually leads to co-existence. Living with the other gender, habitation, copulation, etc follow. (It can comfortably established what genre of 'love' I am particularly referring to) Anyway, I used to wonder a lot when I was in my early teens as to how two sane adults come to terms with a situation like this. I mean we are talking about making a family, living with each other's flaws, compromising to no end. Mind you, I dreamed of a perfect man too. That perfect guy who would sweep me over, flatter me to no end and take me away to a far far away land where i'd live as his QUEEN for the rest of our lives.....and then I grew up!
I still had fantasies but coupled with harsh realities of life. I looked for answers, asked a lot of people (strangers mostly, who shot me a disgusting look and cast me away) Little did I know that the answer to a proposition that complicated was lurking around in my house.
Let me tell you about this couple I know at home. Extremely romantic, deeply in love, fights like raging bulls but pampers each other at the same time. Eventually they went on to start a family and voila! I happened! I look at Maa and Paa and the way they spend their day together. Even if it did not involve telling each other how much they loved them, they seemed a lot in love. I got to talking with Maa one day about the bond she and Paa shared. "Oh! It was not always like this," she had said. "Your father and I had adjustment issues initially in the marriage, we even fought a lot over trivial things. But as time passed I started to understand him, and he, me. We found happiness in each other and still do. That is the secret to our marriage. Infact sweetie, that's the secret to every successful relationship there is." I was stumped. I was getting my first relationship advice from my mother and I was barely 15.
Today, at 22, I do not recall this story that often. But it has since changed my whole perspective about love and relationships. I have learnt not to be scared of what's out there. I have grown up enough to learn and embrace what comes my way. 'Cos if I love, I will be loved back.
And I am the most loved person on the face of this planet....Period!
Whoa! If you just put aside all the lovey-dovey feelings aside and tried to be rational about the concept of love. Love eventually leads to co-existence. Living with the other gender, habitation, copulation, etc follow. (It can comfortably established what genre of 'love' I am particularly referring to) Anyway, I used to wonder a lot when I was in my early teens as to how two sane adults come to terms with a situation like this. I mean we are talking about making a family, living with each other's flaws, compromising to no end. Mind you, I dreamed of a perfect man too. That perfect guy who would sweep me over, flatter me to no end and take me away to a far far away land where i'd live as his QUEEN for the rest of our lives.....and then I grew up!
I still had fantasies but coupled with harsh realities of life. I looked for answers, asked a lot of people (strangers mostly, who shot me a disgusting look and cast me away) Little did I know that the answer to a proposition that complicated was lurking around in my house.
Let me tell you about this couple I know at home. Extremely romantic, deeply in love, fights like raging bulls but pampers each other at the same time. Eventually they went on to start a family and voila! I happened! I look at Maa and Paa and the way they spend their day together. Even if it did not involve telling each other how much they loved them, they seemed a lot in love. I got to talking with Maa one day about the bond she and Paa shared. "Oh! It was not always like this," she had said. "Your father and I had adjustment issues initially in the marriage, we even fought a lot over trivial things. But as time passed I started to understand him, and he, me. We found happiness in each other and still do. That is the secret to our marriage. Infact sweetie, that's the secret to every successful relationship there is." I was stumped. I was getting my first relationship advice from my mother and I was barely 15.
Today, at 22, I do not recall this story that often. But it has since changed my whole perspective about love and relationships. I have learnt not to be scared of what's out there. I have grown up enough to learn and embrace what comes my way. 'Cos if I love, I will be loved back.
And I am the most loved person on the face of this planet....Period!
